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Loss of Libido is much more common than most people realise. We are all busy thinking that everyone else is having a wonderful sex life while we are switching off lights and simply going through the motions, or for some, not going through the motions. Because we have forgotten how to be loving with our "self" we are struggling to be loving to others also.
Our sex drive is what makes us behave in a sexual way. If I was to tell you that this is more common amongst men AND women than most realise. It is thought around 32% of women, have very low or no sex drive at all. For some they will only be affected by low or no sex drive during pregnancy, breastfeeding, menopause or at times of major upset in their lives. The symptoms of lack of sex drive (or libido) are, no desire to initiate or participate in sex, lack of receptiveness and lack of sexual thoughts.
Many are often amazed when I tell them this is more common than they realise. Firstly I should point out that we lose interest in sex for various reasons but there are of course medical reasons too which should be discussed with a GP in the first instance if you feel that your lack of interest may be medical. These could be things like, depression, drug or alcohol related, thyroid disease, tumours of the pituitary gland (which controls most hormone production, including sex hormones), as well as, money worries, mental or physical issues all of these are directly linked to low libido. And if you have recently been to the doctor and this condition has come on or worsened since that trip it could even be a side effects of the medication as that could also have an impact. To be honest, anything from, poor body image, or poor hygiene, smoking and post traumatic sexual experiences can impact your view on sex. But outside of all these areas, we will assume it is something happening, or not happening more to the point, within the relationship.
What you can do:
Firstly - Recognising you have a problem within the relationship is the first step. If you think it may be caused by medication then obviously a change of medication may help. If it is stress then allow yourself time to relax by taking a bath and pampering yourself. Basic exercise such as brisk walking is excellent. Allowing that me time is a must...
Secondly - Really take time to think about your relationship. Make a list of all the things you want to change about your relationship ask yourself some serious questions: Are you sexually attracted to your partner still? Do they make you feel sexy? Do they treat you with respect? Do they treat you like an object of desire? Do they pamper you? In general do they make you feel special? If you are answering no then clearly that is a problem.
Thirdly - Take time to realise how special you are, connect with your body and really feel the energy within. Ask yourself, why are you allowing your partner to treat you this way? Do you love yourself? Do you think you are attractive? Do you not think you deserve to be loved? Do you think you are special enough to be treated with passion? Do you feel loving towards yourself? If you are answering no to these questions then clearly you have work to do on your "self" image as well as the relationship.
Nothing equals the bliss of a complete connection between two loving partners, however, you must first connect with your "self" and truly feel love for the child within. When you truly love yourself you will want the best for yourself and that will involve a partner who truly loves you unconditionally. Not just when they want sex... And with a partner who loves you unconditionally and truly, you will find that heightened pleasure and you will want to pleasure not only them but yourself. And be flexible and I mean that in more ways than one. Once you build that connection you will want to use various sexual poses as you tenderly flow through these movements - so ensure that you are flexible and physically fit enough to be able to enjoy a sexual relationship.
Tayo Sexual Healing is about teaching you to love and respect your "self". Some of the exercises can at first seem difficult but in reality they are all going to help you love and accept your "self". They help you to increase your spiritual awareness and become more in tune with "self". Using these techniques you will find love making enriched and the whole experience will deepen your connection both physical, emotionally and yes sexually too with your partner and loved one. You can have orgasms that literally blow your mind!
12 Steps To Libido Healing
Run a bath and take time to really relax together - makes candles and music part of your bath times.
After bathing together or separate spend time winding down and rubbing oils into one another and enjoying the physical touch of your partner’s body. Really study your partner’s body as if it is the first time you have seen it. Give it your full attention becoming truly intimate.
Intimacy is the most important factor in lovemaking. Anybody can fake an orgasm during lovemaking but who wants to do that - you want to explode with pleasure and I do mean prolonged pleasure.
When connecting with a partner keep your eyes open, it is difficult to hide feelings, emotions, fears or our love when we are looking into their eyes.
Keep looking into each other’s eyes and hold hands or touch hands for a few minutes to build that connection and enjoy the silence.
Once you are comfortable in the silence you can speak openly and lovingly to your partner whilst connecting emotionally. You are using this silence to emotionally connect at the deepest level.
Stroke yours and your partner’s body gently whilst gazing into your partner’s eyes or gazing lovingly upon their body. It is not always necessary to sexually enter your partner sometimes the pleasure in simply in the touch and knowing they are yours to share with each other.
Peaking works for both sexes but often woman take longer to arouse, so it is often best to start with the woman and stroke her body lovingly. This technique involves taking the woman close to orgasm, slowing down and stopping briefly and then building up the tension again. This is repeated a number of times and she will be in a high state of sexual awareness. Then you switch over an pleasure the other partner.
An effective way of increasing his stamina is to place you fingers around the lower part of the penis - this keeps the blood there helping to maintain the erection. Breathing exercises - Spend time breathing together in unison. It is a great way to build the connection.
Kegel exercise: Both men and woman can squeeze their pelvic muscles which strengthens them for sex. When a woman does this during lovemaking it can make the sex pleasure enhance ten-fold.
Breath - Breathing for each other is an excellent way of connecting. Look lovingly upon your partner and decide who will go first and when you are ready to kiss. One will breathe a breath into the other person’s mouth and then the person who just received the breath holds it for a moment and then breathes back into the other partners mouth, they hold it for a moment and breathe back into their partners mouth. Do this for two breaths at first and increase. After about 5 minutes of breathing for one another you will feel totally connected. Making sure you are stroking your partner as you breathe for them in this loving tantric way.
Ensure that you have lots of physical and emotional time together daily giving at least half an hour of quality attention time to your lover and your libido will rise like an air-bubble.
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Loss of Libido is much more common than most people realise. We are all busy thinking that everyone else is having a wonderful sex life while we are switching off lights and simply going through the motions, or for some, not going through the motions. Because we have forgotten how to be loving with our "self" we are struggling to be loving to others also.
Our sex drive is what makes us behave in a sexual way. If I was to tell you that this is more common amongst men AND women than most realise. It is thought around 32% of women, have very low or no sex drive at all. For some they will only be affected by low or no sex drive during pregnancy, breastfeeding, menopause or at times of major upset in their lives. The symptoms of lack of sex drive (or libido) are, no desire to initiate or participate in sex, lack of receptiveness and lack of sexual thoughts.
Many are often amazed when I tell them this is more common than they realise. Firstly I should point out that we lose interest in sex for various reasons but there are of course medical reasons too which should be discussed with a GP in the first instance if you feel that your lack of interest may be medical. These could be things like, depression, drug or alcohol related, thyroid disease, tumours of the pituitary gland (which controls most hormone production, including sex hormones), as well as, money worries, mental or physical issues all of these are directly linked to low libido. And if you have recently been to the doctor and this condition has come on or worsened since that trip it could even be a side effects of the medication as that could also have an impact. To be honest, anything from, poor body image, or poor hygiene, smoking and post traumatic sexual experiences can impact your view on sex. But outside of all these areas, we will assume it is something happening, or not happening more to the point, within the relationship.
What you can do:
Firstly - Recognising you have a problem within the relationship is the first step. If you think it may be caused by medication then obviously a change of medication may help. If it is stress then allow yourself time to relax by taking a bath and pampering yourself. Basic exercise such as brisk walking is excellent. Allowing that me time is a must...
Secondly - Really take time to think about your relationship. Make a list of all the things you want to change about your relationship ask yourself some serious questions: Are you sexually attracted to your partner still? Do they make you feel sexy? Do they treat you with respect? Do they treat you like an object of desire? Do they pamper you? In general do they make you feel special? If you are answering no then clearly that is a problem.
Thirdly - Take time to realise how special you are, connect with your body and really feel the energy within. Ask yourself, why are you allowing your partner to treat you this way? Do you love yourself? Do you think you are attractive? Do you not think you deserve to be loved? Do you think you are special enough to be treated with passion? Do you feel loving towards yourself? If you are answering no to these questions then clearly you have work to do on your "self" image as well as the relationship.
Nothing equals the bliss of a complete connection between two loving partners, however, you must first connect with your "self" and truly feel love for the child within. When you truly love yourself you will want the best for yourself and that will involve a partner who truly loves you unconditionally. Not just when they want sex... And with a partner who loves you unconditionally and truly, you will find that heightened pleasure and you will want to pleasure not only them but yourself. And be flexible and I mean that in more ways than one. Once you build that connection you will want to use various sexual poses as you tenderly flow through these movements - so ensure that you are flexible and physically fit enough to be able to enjoy a sexual relationship.
Tayo Sexual Healing is about teaching you to love and respect your "self". Some of the exercises can at first seem difficult but in reality they are all going to help you love and accept your "self". They help you to increase your spiritual awareness and become more in tune with "self". Using these techniques you will find love making enriched and the whole experience will deepen your connection both physical, emotionally and yes sexually too with your partner and loved one. You can have orgasms that literally blow your mind!
12 Steps To Libido Healing
Run a bath and take time to really relax together - makes candles and music part of your bath times.
After bathing together or separate spend time winding down and rubbing oils into one another and enjoying the physical touch of your partner’s body. Really study your partner’s body as if it is the first time you have seen it. Give it your full attention becoming truly intimate.