Are you happy?
Relationships are funny things, we all want someone, we all want that one person to truly adore us for everything we have to offer them. Sometimes however, things are not always so easy when it comes to what we think is best for us. In other words, we think we are ok, we think we are happy and we think we are confident, but are we really? It is not a question we ask ourselves daily or anytime for that matter, as our lives are just so busy.
When you are around men, your friends, your work colleagues and people you meet, they can detect things, like a radar, if you are on the right track and if you are, what I would say, happy in your life. You would not approach someone and say “hello do you think I look happy, do you sense anything?”
They would clearly think, this is not the norm here. So my question to you is, what signals are you giving out to people? When asking friends, colleagues, clients and others, how they met someone in their life and how they have a lovely lifestyle, their response was “My life, it is jam packed, I love my job, my friends, my life and do not really think about things, I just get on with it and enjoy it!”
Yes, thinking too much…in other words, procrastinating creates a feeling of confusion, loss and emotional dependency, to toxic situations.
This true fact is purely based on how you feel about yourself. If your job is stagnant and it is just there, in other words you are depending on this job to offer you security and happiness, but it’s just there, your fulfillment may feel stifled and you need to spread this somewhere else, which perhaps is not healthy. I see many people, not just females, being destructive in their lives because of these areas which are not fulfilled, they feel confused. So their energy is used up in complicated relationships, for example, married men to negative dependency issues, to also low confidence and searching outside of themselves, instead of dealing with the inside issue and the real reasons. However scary it may be, they perhaps do not want to face reality.
Now, when you look back at your life and think “I am forever meeting strange characters, married men/women, dependent people, needy, violent, solvent dependency, people” this may have been all you know in your past childhood, but it takes courage, awareness and strength to detect this pattern and decide to change it for yourself. You may be scared of change, you like routine. I ask you, how many years have you been in your job, your house, same friends and same lifestyle?
One lady, always attracting married men, abusive partners (dad was quite the same) and men who treated her badly ….When I asked the same lady, to make a list of things she loved about herself, only two things came up. Her dog and her house she told me. Ok that is only 2, but….”what else?”….erm, she said….”I dont know”. So, I said, “what do you enjoy?”
“lots of things”, she said, so, “make that list”….…
Two weeks later a list was formed, I asked her why she was not working on them; her response was that she was too busy. When to be honest she had more time than anyone in the world. She had a little boy too, so she did these things with him at the weekends so both enjoyed their time together. Also when he was with his dad, other days in the week, she enjoyed her hobbies and changed her job. This took a while, as she took her time to find the right areas to work on and changed her appearance as well. (Something she had neglected on for years she felt!)
One person cannot make you happy, as you hear many people say, depending on a relationship to make you happy only creates more unhappiness.
Five months later, she has a new partner. During her life; she only attracted negative situations, from partners, friends, jobs and her life, was the same patterns constantly forming. There were no risks or changes to her patterns in life. Now I am not saying this is what to do, but if you do not like you, nobody else will (more so relationships)….if you do not do things which are healthy, you won’t fully embrace life. You will become a needy partner, attracting unavailable people and the same patterns, until one day something changes you.
Whilst studying this for many years, it has come to my attention that everyone just follows a pattern of behaviour. But it is one tiny thing that will trigger a change for your life to change completely. In this lady’s case it was herself that took ill after drink and her lifestyle habits with stress. She hated her job as a receptionist and kept on feeling that her life was going around in circles. She admitted this…..
I had not heard from her in a few years, but….all I know is that this is not a bad thing, this just says to me, she is happier… but I received an email from her yesterday, she is now married and lives in Scotland. My home town, also where she was originally born too. She is very happy and a 3rd child is on the way.
So what do you want? Is your life being created to attract someone you want who is good for you? or are you always going around in circles doing the same thing for years because it feels comfortable to you and then you get annoyed as nothing changes…..some food for thought!
Joanna Scott
Ask The Psychic
www.askthepsychic.co.uk
Author of "The Love Key"
The REAL reasons why men cheat in relationships by Joanna Scott