Should He Have Female Friends?

Should He Have Female Friends?

It’s one of the biggest relationship questions, are you okay with your man having multiple female friends?

One side of your brain is saying that of course he can have female friends but the other side is questioning are they a little too close.

Does he have that one female friend that he seems to be a little too friendly with?

It’s something that requires very careful treading on your part, especially if they’ve known each other longer than you have.

First of all, you’ve got to get your facts straight. The worst thing you can do is tell him he can’t see her without any good reason.

Find out how they met, what their history is and if anything x-rated ever went on between them.

Now, don’t go and ask him all this upfront, it will only make him feel pressured and make him feel as though he’s done something wrong.

It will also create a form of mistrust on your part if you’re already basically accusing him of something you’ve no proof of.

It’s important to remember that it’s perfectly normal to have friends of the opposite sex – you probably have quite a few, right?

It’s not fair to simply ban him from seeing someone on the basis of this person being a woman.

If your research uncovers that they used to have something going on, whether it be a full blown relationship or a fling, then you’re bound to feel a little suspicious.

The best way to go about this is to tell him how you’re feeling. Under no circumstances should you accuse him of anything.

Simply tell him that their relationship makes you feel a little uneasy at times, whilst making sure you reassure him that you trust him fully.

The chance is, as it always is with men, is that he doesn’t even know that it is having that effect on you.

If it’s someone he has met recently, maybe at work, then he’s probably just being friendly with them to make them feel welcome.

Again, explain how you feel and if you mean anything to him then you won’t even have to ask him to stop seeing her, he’ll naturally dial it down.

The main thing to do is keep calm and don’t jump to conclusions. It’s unfair to tell your man that he can’t have female friends, just think how you’d feel if the situation was reversed?

If he’s given you no reason to distrust him, then don’t! If they’re his friends then the best thing you can do is do your best to make friend with them too, if they’re a part of his life then they’re a part of yours too.

Are you okay with your man having female friends? Let us know by commenting below or tweeting us @FemaleFirst_UK

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