Five Tips for Christmas and New Year Romance
So Christmas and New Year are here and you getting ready to go out to a party hoping to find love, thinking that this may well be the party where you finally get that kiss that you have been waiting for under the mistletoe.
But before you do it’s important to know how to find Mr Right.
1) Make sure you are over your ex. Being on the re-bound won’t usually work as you will be searching from a place of need, not want and this can be felt by the opposite sex, which in turn can turn them off.
Make sure you take the time to heal and if you need help working through it don’t be too embarrassed to ask. Use this time to your benefit and heal from your past so you can make way for the new.
Getting into a new relationship without being ready is like going shopping for some new clothes when you don’t have any space in the wardrobe for them, as the old clothes take up all the room.
2) Be open to different types of men. It’s very easy to start playing the comparison game with an ex. However your ex is history – so look at this next chapter of your life as a mystery, which includes being open to different types of men.
Use this time as a time of exploration; be curious to see what kind of men are out there and don’t just fixate on one sort of guy. Talk to as many men at the parties that you are going to because they may well all be very interesting.
If you get fixated on attracting one kind of man at the Christmas/New Year’s Eve parties then you will not be able to identify what you like or don’t like. Once you get clear, then attracting what you want will be easier.
3) Be the person you want to attract. Ask yourself who you need to become for you to attract the guy you want. For example, if you want the guy to be a gentleman, do you need to be a lady? If so, then what are her characteristics?
Make sure you get clear about this because getting clear is key to attracting what you want.
4) Identify how you want him to make you feel. Rather than thinking about shoe size, nose size and what he looks like, think about how you want him to make you feel. At the end of the day this is what good relationships are about.
5) Don’t sleep with him! Now that you have all of the above in place, it’s really important that you don’t sleep with him after the party. I know that once the wine gets flowing and party gets going it may well be tempting – however, men love the chase and if
they have nothing to work for, they will lose interest FAST!
Instead, wait for him to call you, and definitely don’t call him within 24 hours of meeting him. This will definitely turn him off.
Marina Pearson is a heartbreak coach that works with women to get them over their ex relationships so they move on. Her new book Goodbye Mr Ex is out now.