Have you had a bad one?
Ergoflex.co.uk have recently found that too much cuddling is actually a turn off for new couples, so we talk to Jed MacEwan about why this is an what other things have put off couple when they first dive under the sheets together!
Why is too much cuddling considered a turn off for first time bed sharers?
The majority of those taking part in our study seemed to prioritise a peaceful night’s sleep when sharing a bed with a partner, something that too much cuddling could be detrimental to. It’s important to have adequate space in order to maintain a comfortable body temperature throughout the night, and feeling rather smothered can often cause you to overheat- making a peaceful night hard to achieve.
Men seem to find dirty sheets less of a turn off then women, so why is this?
Whilst we can’t comment on why women saw clean sheets as more of a priority, it could be assumed that men perhaps aren’t as focussed on laundry cleanliness. Recent studies we have conducted have found that single men wash their sheets much less frequently than single women, so it's highly possible this may also be the case here.
Why does something as small as breakfast in bed have a positive effect on your relationship?
This is inevitably down to comfort, and happiness. Breakfast in bed can signify that your partner cares about your needs and making you feel comfortable in their bed, ultimately signalling that they want to make you happy in your relationship.
How can not having plenty of personal space affect your sleeping patterns with a partner?
This is all down to maintaining a comfortable body temperature, and feeling like you have enough space to completely relax - If we're honest, in today's often manic lifestyle the sanctuary of your bed is often the only place you can realistically achieve this. Being crowded by a partner in bed can make people feel a little claustrophobic, which can also lead to body temperature rising. This, in turn, can disturb your sleep, causing you to wake; and ultimately leading to a poor night’s sleep.
What is the most unusual story you have heard of couples not sleeping well with one another early on?
I think the story shown in our results about the man having to share a bed with his partner’s 30+ cuddly toys was an unusual one! Whilst what you have in your bed is ultimately up to you, it’s important that people ensure that they and their partner are both as comfortable as possible - therefore hearing that one woman thought that her man would be happy to be crowded by so many cuddly toys was fairly unusual!
Top 5 worst bed sharing expereinces!
1) A 23 year old man in Newcastle was perturbed when he stayed the night at a girl he was seeing’s house for the first time, and found that he had to share a bed with her entire cuddly toy collection; totalling over 30 cuddly toys in total.
2) A 30 year old woman from London explained that her relationship hit troubled waters when she stayed over at her boyfriend’s house for the first time and discovered a pair of ladies’ knickers in his bed; which weren’t hers.
3) A 28 year old man from Birmingham explained that he once stayed the night at a female acquaintance’s house, sharing her bed, yet had to leave to go to the spare room in the middle of the night as her ‘flatulence during her sleep got too much to bear.’
4) A 40 year old woman from Cardiff explained that she once opted to stay the night at a lover’s house, yet went home as soon as she saw that he slept on ‘yoga mats and sleeping bags’ on the floor of his bedroom. Apparently it wasn’t a temporary measure, as ‘he assured me that it was comfortable- he had slept comfortably on them for 2 years.’
5) A 36 year old man from Brighton claimed that he once suffered a night of no sleep when sharing a bed with a female acquaintance for the first time, as she insisted on ‘falling asleep to the Glee soundtrack’ every night. According to him, she claimed she was ‘unable to sleep unless Glee was playing in the background’; rendering his sleep impossible to achieve.
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