Do You Have Feelings For Your BFF?
It makes you feel like a teenager all over again, all the questions running through your head; if I tell him will it ruin the friendship? What if he doesn’t like me back? Will he think it’s weird that I feel like this?
Of course, you’re right to feel anxious, you entire friendship could go stale if he doesn’t return your feelings.
The truth is, most friendships tend to veer towards a relationship as you grow older simply because you already know each other so well.
You know the family, you know their personality, their goals and you’ve been finishing each other’s sentences for years already so it makes sense that you’re feeling something more for him.
Now ladies, we know how hard it is for men to show their feels and wear their heart on their sleeve so here comes the gut-wrenching part; you’re going to have to be the one to make the first move.
I know that we women like to wait for the man to make a move but you’ll be waiting for the rest of your life so it’s better to just get it out there and deal with it as soon as possible.
Timing is crucial, absolutely do not decide that when you’ve both had a few too many that it’s the perfect time to tell him you love him and throw yourself all over him.
This will only end badly, firstly you’ll be embarrassed and secondly the drink will only act as an excuse, dragging it out even further.
With things like this, honesty is the best policy. When you’re chilling out one night just ask him if you can have a chat and then tell him you think your feelings for him are changing.
Ask him if he is feeling the same and watch for his immediate reaction as this will give you an instant insight into how he really feels.
If he’s quite shy in addressing it, then don’t worry about it. Give it some time, not only may it come as a huge shock to him but also, he’s probably got a million things running through his head too.
As long as he knows how you feel then that’s half the battle, you never know he might surprise you with a passionate kiss as you part ways.
Even if he doesn’t feel the same, don’t let it get to you. Just because he didn’t feel the same as you doesn’t mean that it will never happen, it’s likely that he just never looked at it that way before.
If your friendship is strong then he’ll understand how difficult it was for you to express yourself, and if you’re patient you may just see him coming round to your way of thinking!
And just to keep you positive, Glamour Magazine reported that over half of the engagement announcements in the New York Times were about couples that started out as friends!
Cara Mason @FemaleFirst_UK
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