The Bad Boy Appeal
Despite us women going on and on about how we want a caring man who will look after us and make sure we’re safe and sound, we constantly fall for the bad boy appeal.
So why do we keep doing this to ourselves? Knowing we should go for the kind, gentle, caring guy but swarming to the bad boys?
It’s a mixture of elements, all of which we definitely should know better about, but for those of us who have yet to assess our love for bad boys, here’s what has us falling flat for them.
Thrill and Danger
Most of the appeal is that they have an air of danger about them and this is something most women crave.
It’s out of the ordinary and something different from what most women are used to. Naturally, we all crave a change of scenery and this is exactly what the bad boy can give us.
Hot and Cold
One minute they can be really into you, which is completely amazing as you can imagine, and this makes you feel incredible and pretty much gives you the best confidence boost.
Unfortunately, it doesn’t last and they’ll suddenly become non-existent. They won’t answer your texts and calls and it’s a massive blow.
Then suddenly you’ll be their number one again and you’ll go right back because you know how great it feels – that’s how they get you!
No Commitment
This factor is great if you’ve recently come out of a long-term relationship as it’s unlikely that you’ll want anything serious so that fact that they no commitment works for you too.
It’s important to remember though that you’re unlikely to be the only one they’re seeing to don’t get caught up with them as a serious relationship isn’t likely to come out of your arrangement!
Spontaneity
Being spontaneous is something that we all crave so it’s definitely part of the appeal. We’ve all dreamt of our favourite bad boy picking us up on his Harley in the middle of the night, right?
Well, yes, it’s all fun and games for a while but eventually being spontaneous gets kind of annoying, especially when he does turn up in the middle of the night and you’ve had no time to prep yourself with the ‘I’ve just woken up but look flawless’ look.
Remember…
Although the bad boy appeal is something strong within all of us, they’re not great relationship material mainly for all the reasons listed above.
By all means have a little fling with one, every woman has to, but don’t get caught in their trap otherwise you’ll be left in heartbreak central all alone!
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